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Ever find yourself dreading those awkward talks? What if I told you they could be your key to a stronger relationship? Imagine feeling confident and connected during difficult convos! Tips on handling those cringe-worthy conversations with confidence, clarity, and calm. 🌟Connect with Your Body: Begin by taking a few deep breaths. Feel the sensation of your feet on the ground and the weight of your body in your chair. This grounding practice helps regulate your nervous system, preparing you for a centered conversation. ➡Connect with Your Breath: Take slow, deliberate breaths. Focus on the inhale and exhale. Breathing consciously helps maintain calm and center. ❤️Connect from the Heart Space: As you approach the conversation, tap into your heart space. Visualize a warm, compassionate light emanating from your chest. This will help you approach the talk with empathy and openness. 💥Start the Conversation: With your body, breath, and heart space aligned, initiate the conversation calmly and compassionately. Express your intention to understand and find common ground. 👂Listen Actively: As the conversation unfolds, actively listen to the other person. Pay attention to their body language, tone, and words. This fosters a sense of connection and respect. 🌟Maintain Emotional Regulation: If emotions run high, return to your breath and heart space to stay centered. This prevents the conversation from escalating into a confrontation. 💫Seek Common Ground: Look for shared interests and common goals. This can bridge the gap and create a sense of collaboration, even in difficult discussions. By connecting with your body, breath, and heart space, you can approach difficult conversations with confidence, compassion, with a higher likelihood of achieving positive outcomes. 🌟💬 💥Let's Chat about difficult conversations! ⤵ drop a comment below #difficultconversations #communicationtipsforcouple #communicationtipsforlovedones #emotionalintelligenceiskey #coachingwithmariamacnab

Do you ever find yourself in the middle of a conversation and something activates you? It can feel overwhelming, anxiety producing, and dysregulating. Here are a few tips to help bring you back to center. If you're feeling activated in a conversation, try this:  - Take three deep breaths.  - Be gentle with yourself and take a moment to remind yourself what is true.   - Check-in with yourself before responding and ask yourself what you need.  - Set a boundary if entering into a topic you're uncomfortable discussing. - Consider asking to change the subject and permit yourself to leave the conversation if that request is not honored.  - If continuing the conversation, use "I" statements, "When you said___, I felt____" or try the sentence, "The story I make up…"  - If you're feeling dysregulated: tap on your legs or contract and release your muscles   - Repeat this mantra to yourself: just because it's familiar doesn't mean it's the same.  - Give yourself permission to ask for a break or end the conversation. 

Same conversations, zero progress? (Get results, not just feelings) You hate: -feeling unheard & unimportant -having the same chat 80times -cold, snappy responses You want to: -have a chilled conversation even tough ones -fix problems and move on -help others effectively Here's what you don't realize about listening: -empathy is just half the battle -being interested>be interesting, shows you care -understanding>be understood, shows you see things from their side 3 ways to understand others faster (and get things done) 1) To understand others, you need to understand yourself -->Catch yourself judging: ask yourself "why?" to eliminate biases: -Stop blaming: Own both wins and losses -See the full picture: Avoid fitting everything into your self-view -Ditch the spotlight: People don't notice your flaws as much as you think 2) Mirror their emotions, not words -Ask: "Can you tell me more about it?" -Reflect: "It sounds like you're stressed out." 3) Grab your breath instead of your phone -Morning routine: Set a 1-minute timer first thing. -Observe: Watch your thoughts without judgment. -Receptive mode: Self-awareness sets a positive tone for the day Agree/Disagree? ♻ REPOST to help others fix problems, not just feelings 📌 IF you found this insightful, follow me for similar posts

Do you ever find yourself in the middle of a conversation and something activates you? It can feel overwhelming, anxiety producing, and dysregulating. Here are a few tips to help bring you back to center. If you're feeling activated in a conversation, try this:  1️⃣ Take three deep breaths.  2️⃣ Be gentle with yourself and take a moment to remind yourself what is true.   3️⃣ Check-in with yourself before responding and ask yourself what you need.  4️⃣ Set a boundary if entering into a topic you're uncomfortable discussing. Consider asking to change the subject and permit yourself to leave the conversation if that request is not honored.  5️⃣ If continuing the conversation, use "I" statements, "When you said___, I felt____" or try the sentence, "The story I make up…"  6️⃣ If you're feeling dysregulated: tap on your legs or contract and release your muscles   7️⃣Repeat this mantra to yourself: just because it's familiar doesn't mean it's the same.  8️⃣ Give yourself permission to ask for a break or end the conversation. 

The key to navigating a stressful conversation? Embrace their emotional intensity. That heightened emotion is a sign you’re touching on a topic that really matters to them. Instead of shying away from it – acknowledge their response to help alleviate their stress.

When was the last time you walked away feeling like you’d had a really great conversation with someone? It’s easy to forget just how much we need human interaction, and just how much of a boost even the simplest of conversations can give you. It’s National Conversation Week, and it got me thinking about how much I’ve learnt from the most unexpected chats with total strangers in the past. You simply never know what you’re going to learn. I love to see the buzz that comes with a room filled with conversation, the hum in the air and the energy is something that simply can’t be replicated. It’s easy to underestimate the impact it can have on other people too. Nothing shows someone that they matter quite like taking the time out of your day to converse with them. Spending time listening to them, asking them questions, and making them feel (even just for a few moments) like they’re truly important. What’s the most memorable conversation you’ve ever had? Was it with a friend, a loved one, or a complete stranger? Did you walk away feeling emotional, or jubilant? I’d love to hear all about it!

Tips to support the many who may need to go into a difficult conversation with someone: 1. Don’t start with, “We need to have a conversation,” Instead of giving anxiety, give courtesy by saying, “When you get the chance, can we talk about X?” 2. Don’t lead with small talk like “How are things going?” They know it’s not why you brought them there so the small talk is going to sound disingenuous, so just get to your point. 3. Say what you need to say but give them a moment to brace themselves and you do that by saying something like, “I need to share something difficult to discuss.” Before you end the conversation, leave time to ask if the person has any questions or concerns. You may not agree or can do anything about it at the moment but you’ve allowed space for that person to share and for that person to also be a part of a solution.

Difficult Conversations with someone at work? Here's 1 main point, hopefully this helps your next conversation. -The hardest part (for you) is NOT to take it personally.- They may be talking to YOU, but are they angry at you? Or is it an issue? This didn't just happen-their emotions have been building up for hours if not days, maybe weeks! What you do next is pivotal, to shift the focus from each other to looking at the issue. ➡️Lean in: 1-Understand where they’re coming from (remember the emotional build up to this moment ) 2-Listen closely to the words they use (they may have said ‘surprised’, you assumed ‘frustrated’) 3-Empathise, don’t say ‘I’m sorry ‘- it can sound dismissive. Your instincts will be to try to solve it…you can’t, until you’ve acknowledged the emotions. That's what will feel right for them.

Ideas You Can Steal: 006/009 Difficult Conversation (and what you're actually afraid of)... I sometimes stress about having hard conversations. The thing is, I don’t like not knowing what is going to happen. And for the longest time I thought it was the conversation I was afraid of - so I would put it off as long as possible. But the more and more difficult conversation I had to have (break up with a client, admit we messed up, etc) the more I realized that the worst part of every hard conversation was thinking about it before hand. As soon as I got into it, the thing I feared was already behind me - I was in it. The worst part of any conversation is the one you have with yourself before, it’s your imagination. It’s not knowing the outcome that you are afraid of. Once you dive in, you know. Even in the least preferred outcome there is comfort in knowing. Go have the conversation, you’re in the worst part right now. Give yourself some relief.

Difficult conversation is easy when you are well equipped! Have you ever struggled with not being able to let your coworker know that you don't really enjoy their sarcasm? Or maybe one of your friends keeps giving you advice when you haven't asked for it? How do you feel about this conversation: ... - Oh, I was just joking! - I understand, but I am asking that you don't do this again. - You are just being too sensitive. - Maybe I am. But I am just asking that you respect my wishes and stop doing this. - Well, others don't mind when I do something like that. - Maybe other people are okay with it. I am just asking you to stop. It feels good, right? This is an example of Respectful redirection - a quick, in-the-moment strategy tor giving corrective feedback. In a polite and neutral tone you confirm your understanding of what the other person is saying and then circle the conversation back to deliver the message that you want their behavior to stop. Remember these two steps: 1. Acknowledge the first part of somebody's statement. 2. Redirect to preferred behavior.